Talk wordy to me

Grammatical gender smack-down

There are few things better than a guy with a posh English accent speaking circles around gender-neutral-pronoun dissenters.

Cunning linguist (and adorably nerdy) Tom Scott explains why grammatical gender is dumb and why the gender-neutral pronoun “they” works.

Say you find yourself at a party, and you don’t know the gender or pronouns of everyone present (I found myself in this situation just the other night).

DON’T: Presume anything, decide which gendered pronoun is correct to apply to someone, or ask invasive/personal/insulting questions (ie, “Are you a guy or a girl?”).

DO: Politely ask either the person or a mutual friend which pronouns the person uses, if it’s really that important. Or, and this works every time . . . avoid gendered pronouns altogether! If you find it awkward, it can be very fun to try to find a way to avoid using pronouns in conversation elegantly.

PRO TIP: Do it in a posh English accent!

Michael Lyons is a queer-identified, chaotic neutral writer, activist, misanthrope, sapiosexual, and feline enthusiast. He is a columnist, blogger and regular contributor with Xtra and has contributed to Plenitude Magazine, KAPSULA Magazine, Crew Magazine, Memory Insufficient e-zine, The Ryersonian, Buddies Theatre blog, Toronto Is Awesome blog and Fab Magazine and more.

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