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Boy toy vs porn CEO: The Nick Gruber and Michael Lucas Fire Island spat

The drama between Calvin Klein’s boy toy/former gay porn actor Nick Gruber and porn director, columnist and activist Michael Lucas started at the Fire Island Ascension Party over the weekend, where Lucas had Gruber removed over his alleged drunken and homophobic behaviour.

The 22-year-old Gruber was reportedly proclaiming his heterosexuality loudly at the gay event, and when Lucas had him removed, he resisted angrily. This is only the latest in Gruber’s long stream of dramatics. He was arrested for cocaine possession and assault last year, was alleged to be involved in a bloody brawl in a Hamptons bar this summer, and threatened to tell all about his on-off relationship with Calvin Klein in a book that never came to fruition. Most recently, it’s been revealed that Gruber has hired a publicist in an attempt to make over his troubled image.

Whether it was sent by his new publicist or done of his own volition doesn’t seem to make a difference to Michael Lucas, who forwarded Gruber’s email apology to Queerty and included his stinging reply.

From Gruber to Lucas:

Dear Michael Lucas:

I am sorry that we had a misunderstanding this past weekend at Fire Island. I did not really understand how a big party like that worked, and when I was asked to leave your part of the party, I definitely overreacted. Please accept my apologies.

I came with my friends Hal Rubenstein and his partner David Nichol, who work on the charity arm of the party (Fund In The Sun), but I didn’t understand that people had paid for separate areas. Their fund has donated $750,000 to charities and is an important not-for-profit so I think it’s great that you supported them by buying a private area of your own. I hope I didn’t spoil anyone’s day. It was a fun and unique party and I was glad to be there.

I hope next time we meet we can have a coffee and I can apologize in person.

Sincerely,

Nick Gruber

From Lucas to Gruber:

Dear Nick—

Thank you for your apology. However, I fear that you have misunderstood why I was offended. The problem was not that you had mistakenly come to the wrong area of the party (and it doesn’t matter to me at all who you came with or how much they donated). Many people knew just as little as you did about how the party was set up, but somehow no one else got into a big argument about it.

The problem was that your behavior was boorish and loudly homophobic. Screaming that you are straight and that you don’t want gay men to touch you would be unacceptable in any social situation, much less a crowded gay party. If you are so defensively straight that you truly can’t bear the idea of gay people touching you, then maybe a crowded gay party might not be the best place for you. Please feel free to write “I am straight” on your forehead and stay home. No one will bother you there, and you won’t bother anyone back.

Best,

Michael Lucas