Cock & ball torture not necessarily torturous

The mere thought of cock and ball torture (CBT) may have many men instinctively covering their ‘nads, but two converts caution: Don’t knock it till you’ve tried it. Knockin’em, that is.

“A lot of people are really nervous of CBT,” says enthusiast Dan Madden. “Any guy who’s been kicked there knows it’s not a pleasant experience. What I’m trying to get across is that it’s not painful beyond most SM activities.

“Those of us who’ve tried it understand there’s a lot of enjoyment to it and I want to help people break down the misconceptions,” he adds. “When we say torture we’re not talking military torture. The purpose of any play, whether it’s CBT or other, is that it’s pleasure for both partners. That’s what we’re looking at showing people, where this can be fun.”

Local leathermen Madden, slave to Sudbury’s Master C, will be copresenting an intro to CBT with his fellow slave Iain at the upcoming Mr Leatherman Toronto Weekend later this month.

“What I want to cover is first date CBT,” says Madden. “The word ‘torture’ frightens a lot of people. I had a friend who used to call it ‘C and B teasing’ to get away from the pain aspect of it. It’s not necessarily a bad thing.

“[The balls] are where the semen is stored and the lizard part of our brain recognizes that’s something important,” adds Madden. “There is a real rush from CBT. Many people consider it edge play but it can also be very sensual. Lightly rubbing balls can be an incredible thrill.”

Iain knows firsthand that learning to love CBT can take a lot of patience and tender loving care.

“I was the submissive or bottom who went into the relationship with my Master and was very much, ‘Don’t touch my nuts,'” says Iain. “Not even a hand touching my nuts…. I’d get squicked out even pulling my own nuts.

“My Master, over time, started using things. He would get me used to playing with his nuts with a light touch. Then he would do the same thing with me.”

Gradually Iain enjoyed more and more intense CBT play.

“We tied them [Iain’s nuts] up, then to a ball stretcher, first a one inch, then three inch, then four-inch neoprene and now a leather one about four inches.”

A ball stretcher is a device that wraps around the scrotum and can be tightened with snaps or laces so that the balls end up squished to the bottom of the sac. The stretcher stretches the ball sack leaving the skin taut and the balls very exposed.

“Master C gave me a ball weight for Christmas one year and had me jack off with it and it felt really good. It has two sets of screws and comes apart, then attaches above the balls and below the cock.”

 

As both Iain and Madden have discovered, there’s so much more to CBT than just stretching and manipulation.

“Something new I’ve just gotten into is stomping,” says Madden, “stomping on balls and how to do it safely.”

“Master’s very much into percussion play with different types of paddles,” says Iain. “If you can hit the nuts with it he’ll use it. I’ve even had other dominants that I’ve submitted to use riding crops on my nuts. I’ve gone from ‘Don’t touch my nuts’ to the place where the thought of CBT makes me present my nuts.”

Iain has also found his way into scrotal piercing. “Most guys will just cover their nuts at the thought. Ask me five or 10 minutes before if I was ready to take a needle through the scrotum and I’d say, ‘You’ve got to be nuts,’ but in that scene not only did I get more submissive it was a wonderful endorphin rush.”

Yet another variation of CBT is the inflation of the scrotum with saline solution, something that Iain experienced this past summer at Round Up, the annual getaway organized by the venerable Toronto leather club Spearhead.

“I went through a scrotal inflation with saline, a one litre bag that I took. It was great. This is something I had been interested in for about a year, since I went to the Rochester Rams leather club run. From that point on I’ve asked Master if I could go through that scene. He deemed it so at Round Up. According to some of the guys there they said the energy was electric.

“It’s amazing to see your nuts grow from whatever size they are to having a litre of fluid. You can shine a flashlight behind them and see them glowing. The next morning Master played football with his slave, essentially bending me over and kicking my, or rather his, nuts. It’s a mindfuck. The fluid’s not going in the nuts but the mindfuck of having your nuts kicked and not feeling the pain you’d normally have is amazing.”

While there are endless variations to advanced CBT Iain and Madden’s upcoming workshop will start with the basics.

“You don’t go and put a vice grip on someone’s nuts the very first time and crank it all the way up,” says Madden. “Keeping circulation flow and temperature within a safe zone is important.

“If you’re starting off it’s better to apply pressure to both nuts and start off slowly,” he adds. “The body seems to process pain to both nuts better than if one nut is played with separately.

The workshop, which will include an intro to ball and foreskin stretching, docking (a form of mutual masturbation in which one man’s foreskin is pulled over a second man’s cock and then jerked off) and percussive play, will come complete with live demonstrations.

“We’ll probably both be the demo bottom for each other,” says Madden. “There will be genital nudity. We’ll talk about what to do if it’s your first time. There’ll be a question and answer session. We’ll talk about safety.”

Nancy Irwin (she/her) is a rebel femme who occasionally fights for justice. A biker, world traveller, handy-dyke, play party organizer and switch who plays well with all genders. She makes a living in green spaces.

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