For most queer people, being who they are isn’t really a choice. It’s something they’re born with, and that’s just something I personally believe as well. Well, here’s Cynthia Nixon from Sex and the City saying that she more or less chose to be gay in a recent interview with The New York Times:
“I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.”
Look, I know a lot of people are assuming she’s either bisexual and chose to settle down with women, or she just sees her embracing of her sexuality as choosing it, but I’m going to play devil’s advocate here. Personally, I was born gay. I didn’t really make a choice anywhere in my life where I was all like, “I choose to find these people sexy, and then just fuck the rest.” That being said, what if she chose to be gay? What if she just sat down one day, worked out the pros and cons and said, “Yup, let’s get lesbian up in here.” Does that really mean she doesn’t deserve the same rights and privileges and respect as anyone else? I don’t actually think people choose to be gay, but I also believe above all else that people are entitled to the sex life they want between themselves and other consenting adults without the judgment of others. Okay, maybe I judged a little, and I apologize for that, but what I think shouldn’t have any merit over her personal life unless it involves me.