How people lie about gay sex (and homophobia)

In a new study researched at Ohio State University, 2,516 American participants were surveyed to gain data on “preference falsification,” the idea that when people speak in public they aren’t always truthful about their preferences. What they say is different from what they really think, either because they live in an oppressive country and are afraid to express themselves truly, or because they live in a freer country and are giving in to social pressure and adapting to the general consensus.

The research shows that when people were assured anonymity, they were more likely to disclose that they’ve had same-sex experiences or that they didn’t see themselves as “entirely heterosexual.”

The research also shows that when assured anonymity, people were more likely to disclose a stronger anti-gay sentiment.

“These results suggest that recent surveys have been understating, at least to some degree, two different things: the current level of same-sex activity and the current level of opposition to gay rights,” the study, as reported by Bloomberg, reveals.

So basically, the majority of Americans are cowards when it comes to sex and hate, and the two go hand in hand.

They go hand in hand for me, too. “I hate you, so let’s fuck!” is basically how all my relationships start . . .

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