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Midori’s guide to blowjobs and bondage

Sexpert leads two workshops at Venus Envy

Educator and author Midori says anyone who is interested in pleasure can add finesse to their technique. Credit: Courtesy of Midori.
If you ask Midori what most blowjob givers are lacking, she would quickly tell you it’s “enthusiasm.”
Dubbed the “super nova of kink” by Dan Savage, this world-renowned author and sexuality educator will offer two workshops this week at Venus Envy.

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tied up the sexpert to ask her about blowjobs, handjobs and the world of rope bondage.

Your Wednesday workshop is titled JoyStick Secrets: How to Thrill a Man. What would you say is the most surprising thing people don’t know about blowjobs and handjobs?
That there are classes that will significantly improve their technique. I get people saying, ‘Why take a class on sex?’ It’s like cooking or a game of tennis. I like the tennis analogy because you have two or more people playing together. Everybody can improve their game; even the Williams sisters have a coach. If you are invested in your pleasure, there is always room for finesse and improvement.

Do you think gay men and straight women approach handjobs and blowjobs differently?
Probably, because one has the package and the other doesn’t. The lads have a hands-on, first-person perspective, but that doesn’t mean your game can’t be improved.

What can attendees expect at the JoyStick workshop?
My class is like cocksucking comedy hour. A lot of hilarity, a lot of practical information and hands-on practice with zucchinis and lollipops.

Not to blow the load before the workshop, but can you give our readers any tips?
Number one rule is enthusiasm. Genuine, authentic enthusiasm. Gals often don’t realize that.

In 2001, you wrote the first English-language book on shibari titled The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage. What lessons will attendees at your Thursday workshop, Hands-On Rope Bondage, learn?
That rope bondage can be easy, accessible, dynamic and passionate. The typical expectation is that rope bondage is difficult, complicated, boring and inaccessible. But it’s totally sexy.
 
Would you say EL James’s novel Fifty Shades of Grey has had an influence on the world of bondage?
Sure it has. It’s given the general culture permission to explore a wider range of sexual expression. It’s about opening a dialogue.