Last fall a blogging mother became an overnight folk hero for defending her 5-year-old son's right to dress as Daphne from Scooby Doo for Halloween. Last week she revealed that her church accused her of “promoting gayness” because of it.
"Boo" as Daphne
The author of the Nerdy Apple Bottom blog, who writes under the pseudonym Cop's Wife, explained in an update to her popular "My Son Is Gay" post that after it grabbed international attention, she received a call from her church pastor, who wanted to discuss her "spiritual care."
The first time Pastor contacted me was a few days after the Halloween post. He wanted to discuss my “spiritual care.” It was immediately clear that I was being viewed as having done something very wrong. Our initial conversation was me being called “defensive,” “vindictive,” “disrespectful,” “prideful,” and told that I “crossed a line.” I was told I needed to do penance. I was not asked about how Boo was doing.
The second discussion was a face-to-face meeting during which Squirt was present. I was handed a printout of the church’s response. There had been a meeting with some Elders, and they decided I’d broken the 8th Commandment and not followed Matthew 18. I was told that some members were worried that I was “promoting gayness.” I don’t even know what that means. The words I had written were not promoting anything other than unconditional love and tolerance. My post was about bullying and how my son was treated. My post was about a 5-year-old child. Pastor said he “tried to be mad at me, but couldn’t.” I didn’t and don’t understand why he would want to be mad at me. Again, Boo’s well-being was not mentioned.
She ends her post: "And again I say to you that bullying is not okay, even if you wrap it in a bow and call it ‘spiritual care.’"