9 min

Sex guru Annie Sprinkle on art, love and cancer

Lead with the belly, live with the breasts

Credit: Photo courtesy of Annie Sprinkle

Annie Sprinkle’s many fans can breathe a sigh of relief.

The famous sex guru, filmmaker, and PhD sexologist has not only successfully had a lump removed from her breast, but is in typically good spirits about the whole experience.

Though cancer of any form is never welcome, Sprinkle’s diagnosis may have seemed a singularly cruel fate: for years, the former porn star has used her breasts as an asset and objet d’art. To this day, Sprinkle supplements her income with “tit prints” produced by coating a fulsome boob in paint and pressing it to paper.

Sprinkle’s successful recovery is in part due to the efforts of her primary caregiver, partner and collaborator, Beth Stephens.

Described on the couple’s website as a “sexy dyke playboy,” Stephens is an educator and an artist in her own right. Her artwork features, among other things, a series of bronzed, used undergarments designed as a “homage and a wink to the bravery and chutzpah of porn stars and adventurous academics who are physically and intellectually stimulating, be it in the classroom or on the silver screen.”

Sprinkle and Stephens are currently touring their show Exposed: Experiments in Love, Sex, Death and Art, which they describe as a “performance art show about our relationship, exploring artificial insemination, breast cancer treatments, queer weddings, art experiments, aging, sexuality and more.”

Over the course of a three-way phone conversation in May, Sprinkle and Stephens talked about their experiences overcoming cancer, and provided a bit of background on their current work.

They had just held a “big fat queer wedding” in Calgary — the first legal marriage of the three they’ve undertaken thus far, thanks to Canada’s progressive legislation.

It’s colour-coded as the Yellow Wedding, corresponding with the third chakra and a focus on “Courage and Power.” (Each year has a colour, a chakra, and a theme: 2005 was the Red Wedding, featuring Security and Survival; the Orange Year, 2006, focused on Sexuality and Creativity).

Allan MacInnis: What was your impression of Annie Sprinkle when you first met her?

Beth Stephens: Oh, I thought she was just as hot as could be.

Annie Sprinkle: Aww!

Beth Stephens: My first impression was, like, I got totally wet panties.

Annie Sprinkle: It was lust at first sight.

Allan MacInnis: When did you meet?

Beth Stephens: When I first met Annie Sprinkle, she lived in New York City. I was in graduate school, and then we met again later in San Francisco. I moved to the West Coast and then she moved to the West Coast and we got together for a date out here.

Allan MacInnis: Were you at all intimidated by Annie Sprinkle’s background?

Beth Stephens: No, I think it’s great that she slept with all those people, so that she’d have a lot of practice for me! They got her ready.

Annie Sprinkle: Not too many lesbians could handle, y’know, their lover having had thousands of lovers —

Beth Stephens: But I just say, “Bring it on!”

Annie Sprinkle: —so it was very nice. She’s very open-minded. And very sex-positive. Of course I’d have to marry someone sex-positive.

Allan MacInnis: Beth, are you from New York originally?

Beth Stephens: No, I’m originally from West Virginia, which is a little redneck state in the Appalachian mountains.

Annie Sprinkle: She’s a rodeo girl.

Beth Stephens: I’m a hillbilly.

Annie Sprinkle: A very smart hillbilly.

Allan MacInnis: You have a thing for, like, lawyers and straight types, right Annie?

Annie Sprinkle: Yeah, well — particularly academics.

Beth Stephens: This year (laughs).

Allan MacInnis: If I can ask about finances, do you get royalties from your old porn stuff?

Annie Sprinkle: No. I own a few of the movies I produced, but of the old movies, no. But I do sell some porn movies on my website.

Allan MacInnis: Those are the ones you actually have the rights to?

Annie Sprinkle: No, I buy them wholesale and sell them. But I get a good deal, so I still make money on them.

Beth Stephens: But we’re good Americans, so we’re really in debt. We’re working to get out of it.

Allan MacInnis: What was Calgary like?

Beth Stephens: We loved it. The people were so generous, and so enthusiastic about our wedding — we had a beautiful wedding, and all these artists, all these Calgary artists came and performed and did beautiful pieces.

Annie Sprinkle: We only knew four people, out of 250 people, at our wedding — but it was a big happy family. In fact, my maid of honour was Victoria Singh, who used to run the Western Front there in Vancouver.

Beth Stephens: And she was just extraordinarily lovely.

Allan MacInnis: Tell me about the chakras and colour coding — how do they apply to this year?

Beth Stephens: Well, we’re going to forefront the colour yellow in our lives, and we’ll also really concentrate on projects that have to do with courage and power. So it’ll be a guiding theme for our work throughout the whole year.

Annie Sprinkle: Our wedding was yellow, so it’s called Yellow Wedding Three. It was part of the One Yellow Rabbit High Performance Rodeo in Calgary.

Allan MacInnis: This sounds like LaMonte Young named it.

Beth Stephens: We did one of his pieces too!

Annie Sprinkle: We did a LaMonte Young piece?

Beth Stephens: Yeah, we did. “Zen for Head” was actually LaMonte Young, but Nam June Paik made it famous.

Allan MacInnis: So, pieces centering on courage and power. What sort of things are you planning to do?

Annie Sprinkle: Get arrested.

Beth Stephens: Yeah.

Allan MacInnis: Get arrested?

Beth Stephens: Well, we really use the Love Art Laboratory as a platform to speak out against things like the war. We make comments on a lot of the sort of newsworthy items that are happening around the world. We’re trying to counteract some of that stuff. So we’re hoping this year to be really courageous and to make a really big political statement at some point, which in the United States can get you arrested very easily.

Annie Sprinkle: We believe we’re living our lives as art, so it’s very organic. It’s like, whatever we go through in our life, we make into art.

Allan MacInnis: On the topic of making life art, is there anything you hold back, or is everything made public?

Annie Sprinkle: We try to hold our bellies in, that’s about it (laughs). We’re all for people showing their bellies, but we hold ours in.

Beth Stephens: Well, we don’t hold ours in very well. But this being the year of power and courage, the power and courage chakra is located right about in the belly, right in the solar plexus.

Annie Sprinkle: Yeah, we’re gonna let our belly OUT.

Beth Stephens: Yeah, we’re gonna lead with our bellies this year.

Annie Sprinkle: So actually we might even show our bellies. That would be about the most courageous thing we could do (laughs)!

Beth Stephens: We decided to make work about love. It’s a very simple strategy on our part. And people have responded. I mean, these weddings — who would think that anyone would want to go see two middle-aged lesbian ladies putting on this sort of crazy wedding ceremony? But we sold out days before the wedding happened, and people really enjoyed being someplace that was just dedicated to love, y’know? And I think there’s a real need for that in the world right now. I think people are burned out, really, on all the violence, all the scandal, all the political muckraking.

Annie Sprinkle: A lot of negativity. And people want more hope. Y’know, I think there’s so many churches. And Hallmark! We’re offering an alternative to Hallmark cards and church.

Allan MacInnis: (laughing) We need that, very much… Um, if I could ask you about cancer, that’s another big theme in your work lately. Annie, you’re totally okay now?

Annie Sprinkle: Mm hmm! I mean, I have both boobs, and I’m a year out of treatment now. And Beth helped me get through it together, ’cause Beth took on the cancer — we took it on as a couple, and took it on as artists. So we made art out of our experience. I can look back and go, that was a worthwhile experience because of what we made, you know?

Allan MacInnis: How sick did you get?

Annie Sprinkle: I was never, ever sick. I just got sick from the chemo and from the radiation.

Beth Stephens: She was very tired.

Annie Sprinkle: I was just Phase One, but the treatments definitely made you kind of sick. But the actual cancer, it was just a hard spot in my breast that I felt. It was never an issue really, but if you leave it there, you can grow.

Allan MacInnis: What were the reactions to your Chemo-Fashion Show where you dressed up on ward in various funny costumes? Were other cancer patients seeing that happening?

Annie Sprinkle: Yeah. We had a wonderful doctor, and you go into this room — and it’s like a beauty parlour, with ladies sitting in chairs, attached to these IVs… They were very supportive, and we were pretty disruptive, doing this.

Beth Stephens: But I think that the patients liked it, even though, I mean — we heard some really sad stories, because there were people there that obviously were not going to be cured. But it wasn’t just about death and dying or being sick. We were really doing something else, being creative.

Annie Sprinkle: It was about love. That room, where all the ladies were getting chemo, it was a very loving place, and so Beth Stephens and I were really inspired by that. We made what we called a “Love Infusion Center” — places where people can go and sit down on a couch or a chair or a gynaecology table or whatever, and they can be attached to coloured liquids…

Beth Stephens: We actually had a laying-on of hands at our last Love Infusion, when people would just stand around this one person and put their hands on them and just send them love.

Annie Sprinkle: We gotta get those pictures up on our website. They’re really wonderful… We made these Love Infusion Centers, so everyone could get loved up, because everybody has something to heal, or some pain, or some sadness. It’s the human condition.

Allan MacInnis: What did it mean to be Annie Sprinkle’s primary caregiver?

Annie Sprinkle: Well, working on a theatre piece!

Beth Stephens: Yeah, we started our theatre piece during the time when she was getting chemotherapy.

Allan MacInnis: Exposed.

Beth Stephens: Yeah. So we were working on a theatre piece. I went to all of her medical treatments with her, and made sure that she was getting good care. And then while we were at the medical treatments, we were often documenting the medical treatments, so I was the primary photographer for all that. You know, we also had to have the costumes ready to go to the medical treatments, because every time we’d go, we’d dress in a different costume.

And then, I don’t know… As much fun as we had, it was hard, also. I actually took a medical leave from school, and I just tried to take care of everything, so she didn’t have to worry about stuff.

Allan MacInnis: And of course, Beth, you shaved your head to be in solidarity with Annie…

Annie, did you need to shave your head, or were you just trying to anticipate what was going to happen?

Annie Sprinkle: Well, it’s always much nicer to shave your head than to have it every day falling out, because that’s really upsetting and unpleasant. Whereas if you shave your head, it’s kind of a cleansing experience.

Beth Stephens: It’s proactive.

Allan MacInnis: It’s a marvellously sensual thing to do.

Annie Sprinkle: Yeah. That’s funny, because we’re going back and forth if we should shave our heads again for Exposed.

Beth Stephens: There’s a very important part of the show that involves our heads being shaved, at the climax. That’s nice to hear you describe it as a deliciously sensual thing to do.

Annie Sprinkle: Maybe we should just tell people we shaved our heads because it’s erotic!

Beth Stephens: An erotic ritual.

Allan MacInnis: It also does odd things with gendering. I think Beth said somewhere that in Scotland, there was a piece where people were confused about your gender identities because you were both bald… You see more bald men than you see bald women.

Beth Stephens: Yes, usually.

Allan MacInnis: I read somewhere that during the Cuddling piece [an event held during the Red Year, in which gallery visitors could cuddle with Sprinkle and Stephens under a red “security blanket,” to correspond with the year’s theme] there was a bit of a problem, a riot or something.

Beth Stephens: No, there was no violence. People just really wanted to cuddle us up. There was a traffic jam, but there was no violence. I think at the reception of our wedding in Calgary, they hired extra security, because they were a little bit afraid there was going to be a huge mass of people.

Annie Sprinkle: Protestors.

Beth Stephens: But so far we’ve never really encountered violence.

Annie Sprinkle: We’re lovers, not fighters.

Allan MacInnis: Even in the States?

Beth Stephens: Even in the States.

Allan MacInnis: Are there places where you don’t go?

Beth Stephens: We go anywhere. I welcome bringing our point of view to people who don’t share it. We will take the Love Art Lab anywhere. I really mean that. I’d really welcome bringing our work somewhere our viewpoints are not shared.

Annie Sprinkle: With our weapons of mass seduction.

Beth Stephens: Yeah.

Allan MacInnis: What happened to the tumour? There’s a photo of it on the site…

Beth Stephens: We sold it to the Museum of Modern Art in New York (laughs).

Allan MacInnis: You’re kidding?

Beth Stephens: I’m kidding.

Annie Sprinkle: We should have saved it! No, actually, it goes into a tumour bank. All tumours are saved in tumour banks.

Allan MacInnis: For, like, research purposes.

Beth Stephens: Yeah, they freeze them and kind of use them for research.

Annie Sprinkle: Yeah, they take little slivers…

Beth Stephens: Breast cancer is an absolute epidemic now. It’s in epidemic proportions.

Allan MacInnis: How worried were you, Annie? Are you a worrier?

Annie Sprinkle: No. You know, it’s funny, because when I came out of all the cancer stuff, I really felt like I came out a winner. I came out ahead, somehow. And I had that same experience with porn.

You know, like other people go into porn or prostitution and, I mean, a lot of people do have bad experiences, but I always felt no matter what, I came out ahead somehow. So I think I just have that attitude. If you learn, you grow.

I never thought I would die. But you never know, I never thought I’d get breast cancer…

On the other hand, having breast cancer fits right in with the work I’d been doing, which is all about breasts. So if I had to get a disease, I’m really happy it was breast cancer!