Stevie Wonder gave an interview to the Guardian where, when when asked about Frank Ocean’s recent coming out, he said, “I think honestly, some people who think they’re gay, they’re confused. People can misconstrue closeness for love. People can feel connected, they bond. I’m not saying all [gay people are confused]. Some people have a desire to be with the same-sex. That’s them."
Stevie’s right. A lot of gay people are confused. So are a lot of straight people. Seriously, who doesn’t have sexuality hangups? We live in a world that breeds confusion and self-loathing in its people. Governments control the legal rights to our sexuality, societies oppress it, communities are ignorant to it, families are conflicted, and that carries over to the schoolyard, casting a sheet of confusion over future generations so that the perpetual circle of division, hate, and all around bullshit can continue to plague and prosper.
Change isn’t possible until people realize that we’re complicated. The myriad of sexuality goes far beyond black or white, gay or straight. Which is why, Stevie, when someone risks alienating their fan base and potentially ending their career to be open about their sexuality the way Frank Ocean has, the only appropriate comment to make to the press when asked about it is, “Bra-fucking-vo!” Don’t try and limit someone’s sexual identity by reducing it to “desire". There’s a big difference between the two.
You know, just in case you were confused.